My middle aged coworker is being catfished in a ridiculous way

She doesn't speak English, but has an English online lover who happens to speak her language fluently, like a native! He's a sexy doctor at least a decade younger than her, who in my opinion happens to look pretty gay in the pictures. She seems like she might know it's bullshit and doesn't care.

She doesn't speak English, but has an English online lover who happens to speak her language fluently, like a native! He's a sexy doctor at least a decade younger than her, who in my opinion happens to look pretty gay in the pictures. She seems like she might know it's bullshit and doesn't care.

by Anonymousreply 26December 15, 2022 9:09 PM

For all I know there are many young gay-looking doctors in the greater Manchester area who speak fluent Mexican Spanish and are looking for long distance relationships with older women abroad.

Too quick to judge?

by Anonymousreply 1December 10, 2022 1:36 AM

None of these people exist.

by Anonymousreply 2December 10, 2022 1:40 AM

I found him, simply searching for gay looking Mexican doctors in the Manchester area.

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by Anonymousreply 3December 10, 2022 2:17 AM

For your information he is an English doctor with a very English name who happens to have beautifully groomed eyebrows and speak fluent Mexican Spanish, slang and all.

His amor was also a little confused about where he lived at first, and originally told me he lives in Manchester, Italy.

by Anonymousreply 4December 10, 2022 3:28 AM

Slightly worried she's at risk of being trafficked or waking up in a bathtub full of ice somewhere.

by Anonymousreply 5December 10, 2022 3:30 AM

Is “she” actually a “he” and 16? If so, he/she is absolutely being catfished by an aquatic blob from an outer borough. Call the FBI. They already have a file.

by Anonymousreply 6December 10, 2022 3:35 AM

He claims to work at the Spire Hospital on Moor Rd. in Manchester, which is a real hospital. He apparently sends her long florid texts begging her to come visit him. She assured me she won't do that and isn't going to send him money.

by Anonymousreply 7December 10, 2022 3:47 AM

OP; I deal with these issues a lot in my line of work. I have seen peoget scammed out of hundreds of thousands. It is very sad. You may want to talk to her about it, send her a few articles and maybe a video or two from Dr. Phil (he has some episodes that deal with it). But honestly there is not much you can do. I have seen people rationalize anything when they are in this situation. What many people dint understand is that these scammers are intentionally “bad” in order to get the lowest hanging fruit; they only want to mist lonely and gullible.

by Anonymousreply 9December 10, 2022 10:16 AM

Well, if he has "beautifully groomed eyebrows" then he is a real keeper. I hope you catch the bouquet, OP.

by Anonymousreply 10December 10, 2022 10:17 AM

R9 She doesn't speak English, and I also don't particularly know her well enough to have a heart to heart with her. I found out about this because she was bragging to me that her boyfriend was coming from Italy to visit her for Christmas and I said "Italy?" and she said "Yes, he lives in Manchester, Italy" and pulled out her phone to show me.

R10 It was the same guy in all of the pictures she showed me, he was wearing scrubs but something about the way he was posing just screamed Grindr to me. Some poor English gay has had his pictures harvested off a dating app, I think.

by Anonymousreply 12December 10, 2022 10:48 AM

I'm OP, by the way. In case that wasn't obvious.

by Anonymousreply 13December 10, 2022 11:07 AM

If she knows it's bullshit, she's probably just enjoying the attention until the scammer realises they're not going to get any money or nudes out of her and move on.

by Anonymousreply 14December 10, 2022 11:09 AM

R14 I hope so, he sends her long flowery messages about how I love with her he is and she obviously loves it. Very over the top, how Mexicans can get sometimes 😉

My main concern is that she might try go to meet him somewhere and disappear. She got pretty huffy and defensive when I asked a couple of pointed questions.

by Anonymousreply 15December 10, 2022 11:19 AM

I'm a nearly 40 year old spinster with an unhealthy attachment to my cat(s), but the very idea of a hot guy falling in love with me over the Internet just feels absolutely laughable. Maybe it's because I'm autistic and was bullied so much as a kid that it destroyed all my faith in my humanity.

Is there any way you could traumatise her into misantrophy/understand that hot guys are too busy fucking hot chicks in RL to bother with flowery wooing via text? Too bad she can't read Datalounge, no one comes out of here with any kind of hope left.

by Anonymousreply 16December 10, 2022 1:28 PM

My sister in laws mother got stung for $15000 on one of these scams .Poor woman is plain at best (and thats being charitable) but the guy who was "in love with her" was a stunning silver fox . Honey,stay in your lane .

by Anonymousreply 17December 10, 2022 1:32 PM

R16 Why the fuck would I do that? She wants to have her roleplaying, I say let her. My only issue is that she might get hurt.

Why are you here if we crush your soul this badly, by the way? Basically everywhere on the internet is nicer.

by Anonymousreply 18December 10, 2022 5:41 PM

R16 managed to make op’s problem all about her. Well done.

by Anonymousreply 19December 10, 2022 11:37 PM

So now that I know about the boyfriend I get updated. He sent a long text today saying he woke up this morning and turned to the son to thank God because he finally has his sunflower (this works in Spanish.) Shit if I wouldn't like somebody to talk to me like that.

Also, his time zone is only three hours ahead of ours, which places him in South America.

by Anonymousreply 20December 14, 2022 1:58 PM

R16 get off the Internet, nobody cares

by Anonymousreply 21December 14, 2022 2:06 PM

What an Extremely Sad Tale, OP!

1/10

by Anonymousreply 22December 14, 2022 2:11 PM

Isn't it shocking how people lie, OP?

by Anonymousreply 23December 14, 2022 2:13 PM

My 75-year-old neighbor claims to be in an online relationship with this guy from Chicago P.D. She also claims he sends her money every month and jewelry.

A few of the neighbors, including me, have been telling her not to send him money or any information, but she has not listened.

A month ago, the town came and evicted her for nonpayment of taxes and the house is run down and in need of significant repairs.

I'm guessing her entire social security check has been going to this scammer, but she refused to listen to anyone.

Yes, she's pretty fucking stupid for falling for this, but I hope this scammer suffers the worst pain and death, taking advantage of elderly people like this.

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by Anonymousreply 24December 14, 2022 2:18 PM

Sounds like it could be easy to check if he does work at that hospital. And if you can get hold of the pics, try a reverse image search as well as check the properties of the image which sometimes has info.

by Anonymousreply 25December 14, 2022 2:37 PM

Weird but true story R24. That guy is the only celebrity in my entire life that I ever had a wet dream about,and I didnt really follow him that much. It was so vivid,so detailed . In fact that was the only wet dream I ever had !

by Anonymousreply 26December 15, 2022 9:09 PM

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